Staying Safe: Observing Warning Signs of a Dangerous Liaison

ICSA Today, Vol. 8, No. 3, 2017, 6-7

Staying Safe: Observing Warning Signs of a Dangerous Liaison

Andrea Laisure and Robin Boyle Laisure

Cults and their connection with human trafficking are ever more timely as a topic of discussion. The insidious crime of human trafficking is spiraling at a fast pace. Human Trafficking is the second-largest criminal industry in the world (with the drug trade being the first).1 An estimated 100,000 to 300,000 American children are considered high risk for trafficking every year.2 With the selling and reselling of human labor, trafficking is highly profitable. ICSA’s momentous conference on Cults and Sex Trafficking, held in Los Angeles, California (April 2016) served as a catalyst for researchers and practitioners. At the conference, presenters compared the characteristics of cults with human-trafficking rings.

Recent scholarship has explored further the connections between cults and human trafficking. In particular, Andy Vogler summed up the proceedings of the Los Angeles conference in his ICSA Today article, “Cults and Sex Trafficking.”3 And in her article, "Employing Trafficking Laws to Capture Elusive Leaders of Destructive Cults,"4 published in a legal periodical, Robin Boyle Laisure suggested that the federal statute criminalizing human trafficking can serve as a vehicle for capturing cult leaders, who operate similar schemes.  

Workshops and discussions related to these topics continued at ICSA’s Annual Conference in Dallas, Texas (June 2016). Fueled with information she acquired from attending the Dallas conference, high-school senior Andrea Laisure launched a series of presentations to teens and adults in various community settings. The series, titled Staying Safe, totalled more than 80 hours and earned Andrea a Gold Award for Girl Scout Troop 1128.

In one of her speaking engagements, Andrea copresented at a panel discussion held October 23, 2016, at the Garden City Community Church (Long Island, New York). The topic for the panel discussion was Dangerous Liaisons: The Truth About Campus Predators, Toxic Relationships, and Commercial Sexual Exploitation of Teens. Robin Boyle Laisure, JD, professor at St. John’s University School of Law, served as the moderator. Drawing upon personal experiences and research, panelists provided practical advice to teenagers and parents about staying safe from harm. Presenters were Maureen Griffo, MA, MEd, a former member of a religious-based cult who now spearheads an educational initiative for the International Cultic Studies Association, and Stephanie Spanos, MD, a child psychiatrist who works with teens in clinical settings, in foster care, and in New York City schools.

On May 7, 2017, Robin and Andrea Laisure copresented with a speaker from NJ Safe & Sound ( at the Garden City Community Church on topics concerning human trafficking, cults, and undue influence. Andrea spoke about her lobbying efforts with a local state legislator. The NJ Safe & Sound representative reported success with a bill signed into law that calls for a study on the effects of predatory alienation, which often underlies situations of undue influence. The three speakers then took the presentation to France, where they presented at the ICSA Annual Conference in Bordeaux on July 1, 2017. Together, they provided advice for parents, teachers, medical personnel, and teens on avoiding toxic relationships. The advice they offered is summarized in the following sections.

Warning Signs of a Dangerous Relationship5

Do any of the following telltale signs apply to your relationship with someone in your life, such as a romantic partner (or friend or employer)?

Warning Signs That a Friend or Family Member Is Suffering

Often, people do not self-disclose that they are in a relationship where any of the above is occurring. These are some of the telltale signs of such a relationship: [Note: Some of these signs may also indicate other conditions, including health issues. Appropriate professionals should be consulted.]

What to Do if You Are in a Controlling or Abusive Relationship

How to Respond to a Friend or Family Member in Such a Relationship


[1] LifeWay Network Inc., PO Box 754215, Forest Hills, NY 11375;

[2] LifeWay Network Inc., PO Box 754215, Forest Hills, NY 11375;

[3] ICSA Today, Vol. 8, No. 1, 2017, pp. 12–16.

[4] Oregon Review of International Law, 17; 205 (2016).

About the Authors

Robin Boyle Laisure, JD, Professor of Legal Writing at St. John’s University School of Law, lectures on topics concerning cults and the law. Her articles include “Employing Trafficking Laws to Capture Elusive Leaders of Destructive Cults” (Oregon Review of International Law, 2016), “Current Status of Federal Law Concerning Violent Crimes Against Women and Children: Implications for Cult Victims” (Cultic Studies Review, 2002), “How Children in Cults May Use Emancipation Laws to Free Themselves” (Cultic Studies Journal,1999), and “Women, the Law, and Cults: Three Avenues of Legal Recourse—New Rape Laws, Violence Against Women Act, and Antistalking Laws” (Cultic Studies Journal, 1998). In 2005, she received the Faculty Outstanding Achievement award from the President of St. John’s University, and she is on the Editorial Board of ICSA’s International Journal of Cultic Studies.

Andrea Laisure graduated from the Garden City High School in New York in June, 2017 and will be attending Muhlenberg College in Pennsylvania in the fall. In conjunction with her Gold Award Project (Girl Scout Troop 1128), she has spoken to audiences of parents and teens in the United States and abroad about staying safe from toxic relationships.